The new year always feels like a fresh start—an opportunity to shed old habits, set ambitious goals, and promise ourselves that this year will be different. As leaders, we’re often at the helm of organizations or homes, guiding teams or families, and influencing outcomes. We’re used to setting goals, delivering on promises, and leading by example. But what happens when we fall off track?
Sometimes those resolutions fade by mid-February, buried under the weight of our daily demands. I know this all too well. Over the years, I’ve made resolutions only to abandon them when things got tough. But I’ve also learned that it’s not about never falling off the path—it’s about getting back on track quickly and intentionally.
So, if you’ve found yourself struggling with those goals you set for the year, here are three simple self-coaching questions that can help you refocus and recharge your efforts:
1. What is the one thing I can do today that aligns with my goal?
Instead of overloading yourself with a long list of to-dos, simplify. Break your goal down into its most basic step and commit to doing that today. Leadership is about taking consistent action, not grand gestures. By identifying the "one thing," you can build momentum without feeling overwhelmed. The key is consistency, not perfection.
Impact: By focusing on just one action, you reduce the pressure of needing to overhaul everything all at once. This small win creates a sense of accomplishment and keeps your goal alive, day by day.
2. What belief is standing in my way?
Often, the barriers to success aren’t external—they’re internal. Imposter syndrome, fear of failure, or even a fixed mindset can keep us from following through. By identifying and addressing the beliefs holding you back, you can shift your perspective and take more empowered action.
Impact: Challenging and changing limiting beliefs enables you to see possibilities instead of obstacles. When you reframe your thoughts, you also shift your energy toward solutions, which keeps you moving forward with confidence.
3. Who can I ask for support or accountability?
As leaders, we often carry the burden of doing everything ourselves. But asking for help doesn’t make us weak—it makes us wise. Whether it’s a mentor, a coach, or a colleague, having someone to support you can make all the difference. Accountability can bring focus, encouragement, and a sense of partnership in your journey.
Impact: Accountability gives you a renewed sense of purpose and responsibility, making it less likely you’ll abandon your goal. Plus, having a supportive community creates a deeper sense of belonging and motivation.
How to Turn These Questions Into a Habit
It’s easy to forget to check in with yourself when you’re busy, but creating a routine for self-coaching will help you stay aligned with your goals. Consider incorporating these questions into your weekly reflection practice. You might even jot them down in your planner or set a reminder on your phone.
The real power of these questions comes from asking them often. The more frequently you check in with yourself, the easier it becomes to course-correct and stay true to your vision. Don’t wait for the perfect moment to start again—make the next moment the perfect one.
As leaders, we know that growth isn’t linear. It’s messy, imperfect, and full of ups and downs. But with a simple mindset shift and a few powerful questions, you can get back on track and lead yourself toward success, no matter where you’re starting from.
Happy New Year, and here’s to new beginnings!
M.
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